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It's totally for the manager, they gotta fill their calendars to look like they're doing stuff

… It's totally for the manager, they gotta fill their calendars to look like they're doing stuff. I hate when they want me to rank myself from 1-5 on various things just to tell me, "I don't think you're a 5, you're performing as expected. COL raise." I just put 3's on everything and wait for it to be over. Our company (whose application I built from scratch) just started doing this with a new manager after 6 years and I put in my notice on the first one. My buddy put's all 1s. It's a stupid business culture bullshit thing like mandatory after hours "team building" exercises and stupid infantilization things they love to do now. The best managers on the best teams I worked with never did this.

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> I'll put it this way: the 1:1 for you, but it's also too valuable to skip just because you don't want it. We will have a 1:1 on a regular cadence, whether you like it or not. I don't want a meeting for the sake of having a meeting, but 1:1s are the single best way for managers to connect to team members. If you want to cancel all of the time because you have nothing to talk about, then that indicates a number of different possibilities, very few of which are good. So what I'm hearing, it's not actually for me, it's for you.

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> It's totally for the manager, they gotta fill their calendars to look like they're doing stuff. I can’t imagine a sillier take. No one gives a shit what’s on my calendar. They didn’t when I was a manager, director, VP or when I had a C in my title. The 1:1 is to help you figure out why you’re an average dev and aren’t getting fives. It’s unfortunate you haven’t quite grokked that and instead just spend your time imagining how everyone around you is incompetent and out to do you wrong.

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I’m sorry you’ve had managers that make you feel that way. I can assure you that not every manager needs to book 1:1’s to fill their calendar.

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