Let's take OPs story as an example

I object to this version because in my view "Jessica" is and always was a man. I understand that not everyone sees it this way, but that's the way I see it. I view biological sex to be a real fact about the world and it is unambiguously binary. Also, I take the words of the Bible seriously: "Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.” (KJV) During the time I knew him, Steve was married to a woman and focused on becoming a father. He himself would have described himself as a man. Finally, the fact that Steve was "on the spectrum" is central to understanding him fully, and the fact that he transitioned is telling because a surprisingly large percentage of men who transition in midlife are extremely intelligent and are on the spectrum. I believe that including the details about his personality and his transition allows a…

you're missing a huge part of the story. The fact that the person decide to change their gender is a huge thing. She was born a man, behaved like one for decades, met people under that gender. Then she decided that her real gender was a woman. I don't understand how you can think of gender transition as something not worth mentioning when depicting the life of a person. It is a huge decision in life, and probably tells a lot, for example about the suffering that person has been living internaly for years.